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Jingle All the Way — How to help your little ones sleep this holiday season

The holiday sleep struggle is real

With the holidays approaching, many parents who have recently gotten their babies sleeping well are worried that they might regress a little over the holidays. And I can assure you, those fears could not be more well-founded.  Between the travel, excitement, constant attention and then travel all over again, the holidays are the single easiest way to throw all of your hard work out with the wrapping paper and turkey bones. So… Is there really a way to help your little ones’ sleep this holiday season?

I’m happy to tell you… THERE IS! With some strategic planning and an iron will, you can keep that carefully orchestrated routine running just the way you did at home. There are two major impediments to your little ones’ sleep over the holidays. One is travel and the other is family and friends, so I will to tackle both of those topics individually.

 

Sleep tips during the holidays

Are we there yet?

First off, travel.

If you’re thinking about starting a customized sleep package for your little one, but you’ve got to take a trip in a few weeks, my suggestion is to put off the training until you get back. Although… If you’re looking for an excuse to cancel your trip, not wanting to throw your baby’s sleep schedule out of whack is a pretty good one. Just sayin’!

Now… if you’ve already started on your own, or we are working together, not to worry. Taking a trip typically won’t help your little one sleep better, but if you can maintain some semblance of normalcy until the end of your trip, you and your little one should be ready to get back to business as soon as you get home.

When driving to your destination, a clever trick is to schedule your driving time over baby’s naps. Car naps aren’t ideal, but compared to no naps at all, they’re the lesser of two evils by a (very long) mile. So if at all possible, get on the road right around the time that baby would normally be taking their first nap. If you’re really committed, you might even look for some parks, tourist attractions, or other outdoor activities that are on your route where you can stop when baby gets up. It’s a great chance to get out into the sunshine and fresh air, which will make that next nap that much easier.

If you’re flying, well, my heart goes out to you… It’s no secret that planes and babies just don’t mesh all that well, so I suggest (and this is the only time you’ll hear me say this) that you do whatever gets you through the flight with a minimum amount of fuss. Hand out snacks, let them play with your phone, and otherwise let them do anything they want to do. The truth is, if they don’t want to sleep on the plane, they’re just not going to, so don’t try to push it. Attempting to force a nap will just result in a lot of frustration for both of you. And, most likely, the passengers around you. Trust me on this one as I am speaking from recent experience!

Checking into your destination and checking out of sleep

Alright! So you’ve arrived, and hopefully you’ve managed to maintain some degree of sanity. Now, I’m sorry to say, comes the hard part. Because in the car or on the plane, everybody is on your side, right? Keeping baby quiet and relaxed, and hopefully asleep, is just what everyone is rooting for.

But now that you’re at Grandma and Grandpa’s place, it’s just the opposite. Everyone wants baby awake so they can see them, play with them, take a thousand pictures, and get them ridiculously overstimulated. And it’s exceptionally difficult to tell all of these friends and family members that you’re putting an end to the fun because baby needs to get to sleep.

So if you need permission to be the bad guy, I’m giving it to you right here and now. Or if you’d rather, blame me — the pediatric sleep coach in your life! Don’t negotiate, don’t make exceptions, and don’t feel bad about it. Firmly explain to anyone who’s giving you the “I’ll just sneak in a take a quick peek,” routine that baby’s in the middle of learning new sleep skills, and you’re not taking any chances of them waking up. Let them know when your little one will be getting up and tell them to hang around, come back, or catch you the next time. Or better yet, tell people in advance when to expect some quality time based on the schedule that you’ve worked so hard to create.

I know it sounds harsh, but the alternative is an almost immediate backslide right back into the days of constant fussing and no consistent sleep. Baby misses a nap, gets all fired up because of all the new faces and activity, then overtiredness kicks in, cortisol production goes up, and the next nap is ruined. This which results in even more overtiredness which derails nighttime sleep, and before you know it, you’re headed home from your vacation, and it seems like baby did nothing but cry the entire trip. I’m not even slightly exaggerating. This downward spiral of meltdown central can happen pretty darn quickly.

Stick to your guns

So OK, you’ve steeled your nerves and let everyone know that you’re not budging on baby’s schedule. She took her naps at the right times, and now it’s time for bed. The only catch is that, with all of the company staying at the house, there’s only one room for you and baby.

No problem, right? Bed sharing for a few nights isn’t the end of the world, after all. I wish I could make it that easy for you, but again, you want to make this as little of a deviation from the normal routine as possible, and babies can develop a real affinity for co-sleeping in as little as one night.

So this may sound a little unorthodox, but if you’re sharing a room, what I suggest is simple. Make it into two rooms. I’m not saying you need to bust out the lumber and drywall, but I do suggest hanging a blanket, setting up a dressing screen. Or… And stick with me for a minute… I’m going to go ahead and say it, put baby in the closet.

That sounds crazy, I know, but really, a decent sized closet is a great place for baby to sleep. It’s dark, it’s quiet, she won’t be distracted by being able to see you, and people accidentally walking in and out of the room are much less likely to distract her. If this closet set up isn’t an option, make sure to check out my Traveling with Tots in Tow blog post for a few other possibilities to create a better sleep environment!

And while we’re on the subject of “no exceptions,” that rule extends to all other sleep props. You might be tempted to slip baby a pacifier or rock her to sleep if she’s disturbing the rest of the house, but baby is going to latch on to that really, really quickly, and chances are you’ll be waking up every hour or two, rocking baby back to sleep or putting her pacifier back in, which is going to end up disturbing everyone a lot worse than a half hour of crying at 7:00 at night.

Remember what’s important

Now, on a serious note, I find the biggest reason that parents give in on these points is, quite simply, because they’re embarrassed. There’s a house full of eyes and ears, and they’re all focused on your little one(s), and by association, you! The feeling that everyone is making judgments about how you’re parenting is nearly overwhelming in these family gatherings, but in those moments, remember what’s really important here. Your baby, your family, and your collective health and well-being.

There may well be a few people who feel a bit jaded because you put baby to bed just when they got in the door, and your mother might tell you that putting your baby in the closet for the night is ridiculous, but remember you’re doing this for a very noble cause. Perhaps the most noble cause there is.

So stand tall and remember that you’re a superhero, defending sleep for those who are too small to defend it for themselves. If you want to wear a cape and give yourself a cool superhero name, you go right ahead! Just remember that, like any superhero, you may be misunderstood by the masses.

But… Ignore them. You’re on a mission! And if you want to team up to be SuperMoms together, let’s chat and make sleep your reality as we enter into 2018. Remember, you can help your little ones’ sleep this holiday season. And I’m here to support you in any way I can!

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Cheers to sleep and Santa, too!

Brittney

 

 

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