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“Crap” Naps – What they are and how to fix them!

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The curse of the short nap

Your baby wakes up in the morning after a decent, but not amazing, night. You feed her, change her, play with her for a little bit, take her for a little walk outside, then rock her to sleep and put her gently into her crib for her morning nap. Phew — you made it to nap time and get a little time to yourself.

Mom frustrated with nap time

And then, 30 minutes later, you hear it. She is starting to make noise and is clearly awake… Already! She escalates to fussy and irritable and, despite your

pleading, refuses to go back to sleep. So after half an hour of trying to put her back down, you finally give in and scrap the nap, hoping she’ll be that much more tired when her afternoon nap rolls around.

A few hours later the exact same scenario play out again, and baby is a cranky ball of unhappiness for the rest of the day. Ugh, just ugh!

Sleep, like food, is one of those elements where baby’s got the final say on whether or not they’re going to cooperate, so there’s no sense trying to force the issue. If they’re not sleeping, just leaving them in their room usually won’t fix things.

So should you just let her “win”?

The quick answer here is no. Our little ones need to nap. So, let’s back up a bit so I can educate you on what’s going on, and how to resolve the issue.

Babies, just like the rest of us, sleep in cycles. We start off in a light state where we’re easily woken up, then gradually fall into a deeper stage where even loud noises or movement might not be able to rouse us. This deep sleep is what really rejuvenates us because while our brains and bodies do all of the maintenance work, we become refreshed, clear-headed and energetic. Once we’ve come to the end of the deep-sleep cycle, we slowly start coming back to the light stage again, and typically we wake up for a few seconds and then drift off again, and the whole thing starts again.

In adults, one of those cycles typically takes about an hour and a half. In babies, it can be as little as 30 minutes. So the fact that your baby is waking up after only 30 minutes is actually completely natural. In fact, if she wasn’t waking up regularly, that might be cause for concern.

“But,” you’re thinking, “I have friends whose babies nap for two or three hours at a time.” Well, that’s partially true. But in a more literal sense, they’re stringing together several sleep cycles in a row. The only difference between their baby and your baby is… Drumroll please…

They’ve learned how to fall back to sleep on their own.

It really is that simple!

That’s it. That is the heart of the issue. Once your baby can fall asleep without help, they’ll start stringing together those sleep cycles like an absolute champ. That’s going to make your baby a whole lot happier and, on the self-indulgent side, leave you with two hours at a time to do whatever you like. Granted, as a mom “whatever you like” might not mean what it once did, but still, two hours twice a day to catch up on chores (or binge watch Netflix) is something we can all appreciate.

So remember back at the start of that scenario, there you were, getting ready to put baby down for her nap, gently rocking her to sleep and then putting her down in her crib. Stop right there. That’s where you need to make some changes. Because in this scenario, you are acting as what we in the sleep consulting business refer to as a “sleep prop.”

Sleep props are basically anything that your baby uses to make the transition from awake to asleep. Pacifiers are the most common example, but there are many others, including feeding, rocking, singing, bouncing, snuggling, and car rides.

But what about the cuddles?

Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t rock your baby, or sing to her, or read her stories, or love her like crazy. You absolutely should. Just not to the point where she falls asleep. When it comes to bedtime, whatever time of the day that might be, put your baby down in her crib, while she’s still awake, and let her fall asleep on her own.

There might be a little bit of protest for a day or two, but for the majority of my clients, the results start to materialize in about two or three days. Think about that. Two or three days, and you and your little one could be enjoying the extraordinary benefits of proper sleep. She’ll be happier, healthier, more energetic, and you’ll both sleep better at night to boot.

And a few extras just because…

Here are some other pointers for extending baby’s nap time:

  • Keep the bedroom as dark as possible. Buy some blackout blinds if the sun is getting in, or if you’re on a budget, tape some black garbage bags over the windows. It doesn’t have to be pretty, it just has to be functional.
  • White noise machines are useful if baby tends to wake up due to the neighbor’s barking dog, the inconsiderate delivery guy ringing the doorbell, or any other noise that might startle them out of their nap. Just make sure it’s not too close to their ears and not too loud. 50 dB is the recommended limit.
  • If you’re running into trouble applying these suggestions, reach out to me and set up a free 15 minute evaluation call. The solution might be simpler than it appears, and most of my clients see dramatic improvements just one or two days into their customized sleep plans!

 

 

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  1. Logan on February 21, 2019 at 9:25 pm

    Hello! I have a 6m old who falls asleep independently without props yet still wakes every 30-40 min. I’m thinking it’s because his next feed is coming up (he falls asleep at the 2 hr mark but eats every 3) but after I feed him hes wide awake and if I try to set him down in his crib he rolls on his belly and ends up spitting up. What do I do?? wait 30 min after feeding and try another nap or??

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